-- and yet, the questions without significantly hurting anyone prompted a thoughtful and pointed response, which shed light on the broader subject that the interviewer was fumbling towards. I can think of way worse questions than this sort.
De Campi's reaction is good, even her personal offense is good. it's real and it adds punch to her righteous response. No need to get on a bandwagon wherein if someone is offended we then shame the person who is offended -- timid souls might be discouraged from asking worthwhile questions, as they are questioned for questioning.
i would encourage questions on sensitive matters to sensible individuals. i would discourage trivial questions.